Self care is not selfish, its necessary.
I think we can all agree that one of the hardest jobs in the world (aside from being a health worker) is being a MOM. Whether you have one or twelve kids, its still a daily task of trying to accomplish your household chores, while giving your loved ones the attention and affection they need.
Because while you take care of everyone else, you often forget to take care of one important person: yourself. Ask yourself: when was the last time you’ve given yourself a break? Have you given yourself some ‘me time’ lately?
Lets be honest – if you are not giving yourself the love and care that you give others than you will eventually burnout. Let’s admit it- you can’t pour from an empty cup and you can’t give what you don’t have! Lets head into the new year with the right mindset. Start by loving yourself, investing in yourself, and giving yourself the emotional, physical, and mental care that you need first. Start with self care.
Here are five simple self-care tips for busy moms
- Live healthy
Your body is important! You cannot do any of the amazing Super Mom things you do if you are unhealthy. The best way to take care of yourself is to eat healthy and get plenty of sleep. Also, exercise regularly and take your vitamins and supplements. Most importantly, avoid substances that can harm your body. Another way to live healthy is to practice good hygiene (you could even get glam up once in a while if you want!) It does not only make you feel good, but it also improves the way other people view you too. When you give your body the care that it deserves, it’s going to thank you and help you be the best Mom you can be to your family.
2. Learn to ask for help
One of the most common mindset every mom has is “I can do it all!” Reality check moms… while it is possible that you CAN, you don’t HAVE to do it all. I know we all love how our kids, but it’s okay to give yourself a break and ask for help. Delegate some chores to your kids or husband. Call your mom to come over and watch the kids while you take a coffee break. You don’t have to carry the whole world on your shoulders, you know. Loving yourself is learning to let go, and loving others is letting them help you! Win-win situation, right?
3. Connect with yourself
By definition, self-care means to improve one’s health and well-being. What can be self-care to me might not be the same for you. That’s why it’s important to know yourself first and identify what you’ll need in your self-care routine. What are the things that stress you out? It could be sudden changes in plans, or a certain topic that makes you uncomfortable. For me, taking a nice warm bath is one way I connect with myself. Find out what triggers you and learn how to manage your stress.
4. Reward yourself
As moms, we always give treats to our kids when they’ve accomplished something, right? This reward makes them more motivated to repeat the action or even do better and they call that conditioning. Guess what? You can do this to yourself, too! Celebrate your wins by treating yourself to your favorite cup of coffee or ordering something you’ve always wanted. Maybe even take a weekend trip somewhere nice with your girlfriends! Rewarding yourself for your hard work will keep you inspired and encourage you to push through even when things get tough.
5. Find a hobby
A hobby doesn’t have to be fancy. It just means finding an activity that you enjoy doing, and do it regularly so you can relax. You should have an ‘ultimate’ hobby that you do at least once a week. Maybe take a virtual dancing class, painting or knitting. It can also be simple things like watching a favorite TV show, listening to a podcast, or just taking a walk outside. The purpose is to find a hobby that brings you joy.
Self-care is ultimately a personal choice so take all the time that you need to figure out what truly nourishes your mind, body, and soul.
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